“…from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” A very famous sentence. Most movies with some form of a wedding will employ these words. A few weeks after International Marriage Week I’m wondering if we still grasp the meaning of this covenant-affirming vow.
“Marriage is a beautiful thing if…. you get it right. If you don’t…. ” Mark Gungor’s Laugh Your Way seminar plays often here in our house. We like to hear and talk about marriage. And even better if it makes you laugh! Marriage should be a great and beautiful thing. My eyes lit up when I get a chance to work with a couple that is hungry for this: a strong marriage.
Recently we had some couples from our last workshop joining us for a meal. In a romantic setup for a Valentine’s dinner we discussed how we could influence our communities, starting with ourselves. Some of them had a history behind bars and in gangs. Hearing their stories about gangsters and broken families I realised 2 things:
- Community is the most powerful channel to impact a neighbourhood.
- We learn the most in and from our families of origin.
We will probably have a healthy satisfying life, if this family was a safe place where relationship and covenant were modelled. But the other side is that when the family was a broken place, we often end up looking somewhere else for safety and role models. For instance in gangsterism. The gangsters look at the gang for security, belonging (until death do us part!) and a role model.
Currently there is a lot of turmoil in our town because of gangsterism. Videos of shootings are shared on Facebook, like it’s the next popular thing to do. At different levels of influence people are meeting to see how this violence can be stopped. But we’ve been here before, and we’ve had (prayer) meetings again and again. Then I read this (below) in the introduction to a great book, called Fantastic Families.
The basis for a strong family is a strong marriage. A strong marriage understands the meaning of covenant: the choice to love you, no matter what! This is what God models in the Bible. He says: I’ve got your back!
It seems like gangs have understood this vow better than most of our marriages have! But what if we can redirect that strength? Imagine this power of the gangs transformed into men who are strong in their commitment to their marriages and families? Because there is a strength in this negative cycle! It shows how faithful and committed these men are, albeit to the wrong thing.
With FamilyBase we take couples by the hand and show simple tools that help strengthen the marriage. We share about the power of covenant and how a strong connection is possible if you want it. Bringing hope to the nation, one marriage and one family at a time.